A Fantastic Alternative To A Messy Divorce

There is a new movement in the world and it is picking up speed. It is a true alternative to the sanctity of marriage. No it is not free love or anything like that it is an inevitability called living together in divorce. Marriages end everyday and new arrangements are made.

It is really hard on everyone when a marriage breaks up and some would say that next to the children the bank manager takes the hardest hit. They have invested into that marriage with personal loans, credit cards and of course the house mortgage. They must surely get sweaty palms every time they hear the news that one of their clients is heading for the divorce courts. They know better than anyone that if it is a nasty split the chances of getting their money back becomes a whole lot slimmer.

What is the point to all this you ask? Well maybe it was one of these bank managers who invented this ingenious way that couples can go on living together even though a divorce is looming. A lot of couples are up to their eyeballs in debt and I often think it is just a product of the modern times. Sure we are still struggling out of a recession and it has impacted on rich and poor alike. But there is the fact that credit has been readily available to most of us for a long time now and we have sure made it a way of life. So like most people we get married, buy a house if we are lucky furnish it and have some kids till we are officially in debt.

There is only one problem though. We do not want to be married any more. We want to get a divorce split up the assets and find a workable solution for our fantastic kids. Our lives feel like a car crash as we realize that a divorce at this time is out of our reach.

The good news is we still get on fairly well so we try to think of a clever plan to ease us out of this mess. We have friends in the same boat who decide to stay living together so they can continue to raise their children until they were older. They have a lot of debt so it becomes an easy decision to make.

What a fantastic attitude when we can rise above our petty differences and leave our marriages in a dignified way. It is so often the opposite. What is it about the end of a marriage that turns us into to crazy people seeking revenge and atonement? These brave husbands and wives are showing us all that can be done when common sense prevails. There is a lot to sort out when a marriage is ending. It is not only feelings of hurt it is children and houses and lives that have been joined together. By living together through the divorce you will have gained a tremendous amount as human beings and have managed to pull off what even some countries at war cannot do. You will have been able to push your emotions aside in order to leave the marriage in a civilized way making it much easier to move on into the future.

Remember our bank manager? I am sure he is a total advocate for married couples continuing to live together while they are divorcing. The way marriages are going it could be possible in years to come that these banks will not lend to married folk at all.

Who could blame them? What is wrong with leaving your marriage in a tidy state of affairs? This is a positive alternative to the standard divorce.